My friend recently had a little baby boy and while it’s all very exciting and she is loving having a second child she is still talking about how exhausted she feels. Fair enough. I understand her very well as I’ve done the hard yards of having two under two. Now that Cooper my second son has tuned one things are a little easier. He is able to do a lot more on his own and I’m getting some much needed rest but my friend is right in the depth of it all.
So it made me think. How can I help my friend feel better, more relaxed, less tired and know she has my full support?
If you’re in the same boat as I am and want to help a friend or relative out then these tips may give you some idea on how you can help your loved one out.
10 Things You Can Do To Help A Mum With A Newborn
1. Offer to take the baby or her children (if she has more than one) for an hour or two so she can have some much needed rest.
This is a huge one! Every mum wants to be given a break, even if it’s just an hour or so to rest and get some sleep or a few minutes child-free. Make sure to ask what her children’s routines are and what you can do to entertain them, feed them, etc.
2. Pop over to clean her house!
When you’re dead tired, want to drink five thousand litres of coffee to keep you functioning and your baby has kept you up most of the night the house pretty much goes to hell. It can get aggravating because who likes to live in a messy house with washing and dishes piled up to the ceiling? The thought of this makes most of us cringe. So pop on over and offer to tidy up her kitchen, her lounge room, pop a couple of loads of washing for her, vacuums her floors and if you get a chance even fold some clothes too. She will be so appreciative of this and you will take a lot of stress off her shoulders because she can enjoy a nice clean house!
3. Cook her a week (or two) worth of fresh and frozen dinners.
No brainer. Who wants to cook when they’re exhausted and have to deal with a baby who is at its peak of clinginess in the afternoon? No one. The witching house is a killer when baby wants al the attention in the world. Some lovely home cooked meals and frozen dinners are much appreciated because she has them to pop into the microwave or oven and doesn’t have to deal with the cooking or too much cleaning.
4. Pamper her by making her homemade beauty products.
What says “I care” more than putting the effort into making something homemade? Make her a delicious body scrub or a lovely body oil for her to enjoy during her much appreciated shower time. This Homemade Orange Scrub will make her feel soft, pampered and smelling amazing. *Please remember that breastfeeding mums must be very careful with what they put on their skin as newborns are very sensitive. My scrubs are all natural and I suggest not using essential oils with them if it is for a breastfeeding mum of a newborn. The natural fragrance of the other ingredients is enough.
5. Shout her to a massage and offer to babysit while she relaxes.
If budget allows, shout this tired mamma a relaxing massage while you stay with her little one and let her enjoy your gift.
6. Do her grocery shopping.
Another great way to help mums with new babies is to offer to go and do their grocery shopping so they don’t need to leave their house. Get her to give you a list of what she needs so you can pop out and get it all for her.
7. Create a Craft Bag for her older children.
If she has older children she will have her hands well and truly full. Put together some little craft supplies, colouring in pages, crayons in a bag and give it to her so that when she needs to entertain the kids, she can quickly and easily get out the activity bags without running around trying to collect supplies for her kids crafts.
8. Help her to get out of the house and enjoying the fresh air.
Offer assistance to help her get everything ready for baby and other kids (if she has more than one) and go out with her to wherever she may want to go. This may seem so simple but it’s a HUGE help to a mum of a newborn baby. To have an extra set of helping hands is fabulous while adjusting to having a newborn baby. Your mummy friend and her baby will enjoy the fresh air and some lovely company.
9. Give her distance if she wants it.
Ask her if she wants your help and show her you are there for her but also remember some mums of newborns just want to be left alone. This is fair enough. She wants to bond, get used to her baby, rest and get around in her pyjamas all day long. If she doesn’t want your help, this is fine. Don’t push her or be insulted by her. She will soon let you know when she is feeling tired, overwhelmed etc. Then you can offer help again and see if she takes you up on your offer.
10. Be there to hear her and be her shoulder to cry on.
Most mums with newborn babies at some point or another hit breaking point and cry from lack of sleep, exhaustion, stress, hormones, dealing with all the changes that come with having a new baby in their life…. The list goes on. Be there to listen to her. She may just want to vent and tell you how hard it is or tell you a story about a huge poop explosion she dealt with the day before. Either way, be there for her, support her, let her know you are happy to listen. This is what new mums and mums of newborns need. Someone to listen, to tell her she isn’t alone.
There are so many other ways you can help a mum of a newborn. Get creative, think outside the box and just be there for her. If you don’t have kids she will one day return the favour and boy will you thank her for it.
What other ways can you help out a mum with a new baby? Would love to know what you can add to my list 🙂